Rukmini-Krishna
Rukmini was the first wife to Krishna.
She loved him a lot. However, with time she realized that giving her time was a big issue for Krishna.
As king of Dwaraka, Krishna had to spend lot of time with yadavas, well-wishers, seven-other wives and look after his kingdom. All these kept him occupied and he couldn’t give her time or attention she had deserved.
Rukmini made peace with it. She understood that everyone wanted to spend time with Krishna as much as her and they also loved him as equally as her.
She accepted this weakness and started to experience his love even in his absence. She saw omnipresence in his love.
That’s how their relationship stayed strong.
Krishna-Satya
Satyabhama was the third wife to Krishna.
She was fiery, short-tempered and very possessive.
She always demanded love, attention and time from Krishna irrespective of his other commitments. She wanted him to be with her always and desired to be his most favourite queen.
Krishna made peace with it. He understood that her impatience, selfishness and arrogance, all stemmed from her strong love towards him.
He accepted her weakness and did everything (taking her everywhere he went, touching her feet, uprooting parijata plant and giving it to her) to make her happy. He never got angry or annoyed at her tantrums.
That’s how their relationship stayed intact.
The thing that made the relationships work in both the cases is
Acceptance & Adjustment.
It is near-impossible to find perfect people.
As humans, we are not cut out to be perfect. We are multi-dimensional characters. We have anger, jealousy, priorities, selfishness, mediocrity, impatience etc.
Everyone of us come with our own set of flaws. We all try to be good but situations sometimes bring out different facets of us.
If your partner’s imperfections are within your tolerable limit, the best thing you could do is to accept them, make peace with their behavior and find ways to live with them without letting your relationship getting disturbed.
Togetherness lies in making peace with these differences.
If you think that there is larger happiness in your relationship, then
- Sometimes you need to give primary importance to the relationship and put yourself beneath it
- Sometimes you need to accept that it is okay to lose yourself to make your relationship win
- Sometimes you need to realise that you can’t change people as you want and you need to let them be.
That’s how successful relationships grew and sustained.
The truth is, none of us are easy to date, deal with, or please all the time. We all have our vices, attitudes, & way of doing things that make
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