Forgive but don’t Forget

After every heartbreak, I ask myself - Revenge or Forgiveness? The answer to this is very simple - Forgive but don’t Forget! Now you would say - Easier said than done. You are right, forgiving someone is difficult especially if the heart was involved in it. But always remember, your past is your greatest teacher. It’s up to you to become its greatest student. To learn, you need to forgive without forgetting.

Forgiving the person means letting go of the bitterness inside you. No matter how deeply you are hurt, you will heal. Always remember it's their loss, not yours. They lost someone who cared deeply for them, whereas you lost someone who was eventually going to hurt you. ( iss mein tera ghata mera kuch nahi jata :D ). Wish best for them and move on. I’m not saying you should not feel the hurt or mask it. Getting in touch with your emotions is a necessary step for healing. But once healed, let go of the person. Caging them in mind is going to increase your hurt or hatred, which are stress booster emotions.

But then should we forget it? Not forgetting the experience is as important as forgiving the person. Never forget the lesson learned by your past experience. If someone broke your trust, make sure you take time to trust people. If someone took credit for your work at the workplace, ensure it does not happen the second time. Those who forget the past are doomed to repeat it. Learning from the past experiences molds you into a stronger person.Learn Grow and Let Go....

Here's a quote from Oprah Winfrey –“No, it doesn’t feel good. It doesn’t feel good in this moment, but in the future, it’s the thing that’s going to light you up so you can stay lit! When you look at the thing, the deeper the heartache, the more you needed to learn, and that’s actually the truth... Every heartache is there to teach you something about yourself."